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There is trouble in the compound. Not the type where you call elders and everybody sits under the mango tree. This one is more complicated. The husband says there is no problem. His wife says there had better not be a problem. And one very confident family friend has moved his slippers under the matrimonial […]
Continue ReadingA man was reportedly dying on the street. Those around him apparently believed he had encountered magun, that ancient Yoruba nightmare whose name itself roughly translates as “do not climb.” Magun is believe to be an instant killer but this particular Osun instance had a solution. The woman suspected to be the magun victim’s partner-in-sin […]
Continue Reading“Women have finished me,” my friend groaned. “Everything costs money. If you take a woman to dinner, you pay. If you buy her gifts, you pay. If you marry her, you pay school fees. If she has a birthday, you pay. If she is angry, you buy peace offerings. If she is happy, you celebrate […]
Continue ReadingTina’s marriage to Otunba was the envy of their circles, social and political. In church, she was a reference point on what a good wife should be. She dressed elegantly always without exposing any part of her body believed to be the exclusive preserve of her husband. She was respectful and respected. Otunba was a […]
Continue ReadingIf I am ‘accused’ of being pregnant with twins, shouldn’t the onus be on me to confirm or deny the unusual news? Why would Dr Lasisi Olagunju or Bamidele Johnson decide to climb the roof to shout themselves hoarse that Funke is not pregnant and indeed (for good measure), she is a virgin? So, the […]
Continue ReadingFunke, do you know that a man’s manhood also needs recharging? Excuse me, is a man’s manhood a phone or a power bank? It is both. What kind of corruption is this on a Monday morning? I muttered. Daddy Abe is a man with white hair and I am just a woman. I have a […]
Continue ReadingKunle was raised in a house where the rules were clear and neatly folded like ‘bottom-box’ Sunday church clothes. His father woke up at 5 a.m. and rang the bell for morning prayers every day. It was a compulsory morning service that everybody must attend, groggy or half awake. Daddy ironed his own trousers, polished […]
Continue ReadingLetty was a good girl who became a good wife but the seasons changed and this once-upon-a-time choir leader, like Lot’s wife, looked back and right before the eyes of her Pastor and in the presence of her bewildered husband, is turning into a pillar of salt. The kind of salt no one wants to […]
Continue ReadingToday I’m worried about men of God, wet matchboxes and the fire at the base of the mountains of pastors’ wives. I’m worried about pastors who leave their wives’ needs unattended in the name of doing God’s work. A pastor’s wife was caught pants down with her butt-naked brother-in-law defiling the clergyman’s marriage bed. The […]
Continue ReadingAs a young reporter in the early 90s, I grew up in the newsroom hearing the phrase ‘IBB Boys’. These were young soldiers loyal to the former Military President, Ibrahim Badamosi Babangida who ruled Nigeria between August 27, 1985 and August 26, 1993. As a directing staff (lecturer) at the Nigerian Defence Academy, NDA in […]
Continue ReadingIt is rare to find all four in one husband. Sometimes you find two in one man and unless God helps the couple, that marriage is doomed. These sins hurt and scar women. The men who commit them also suffer from deep-seated issues. The children bear the scars for life, oftentimes carrying them into their […]
Continue ReadingWhether you are a runs-girl or a serious-ready-to-mingle single looking to settle down, you need an extra pair of eyes to ‘see’ the man on your case. Pastors call it a discerning spirit. It’s the ability to deeply and spiritually see beyond the fine face and six packs the man toasting you presents. Women, these […]
Continue ReadingA man with the he-goat spirit is a man who does not listen to your advice. It’s not that he does not respect you. It’s just that he respects that thing in-between his legs more. He is not deaf either, he just likes the sonorous voice of his third leg. It is sweet in his […]
Continue ReadingSome wives are not worth the titles they carry. They are women, yes. Wives? No. The right moves, acts and depth are just not there. It is either they forgot everything their mothers and clerics taught them about being a wife or they simply came up with their own codes of conduct but whatever they […]
Continue ReadingShe has come a long way. She started small, very small in fact, but life has been kind to her. She has found favour with God and man. Today, the young awkward marketing executive is the Chief Operating Officer of a multi-million naira concern. She has men, her father’s age, calling her Madam and women, […]
Continue ReadingSoldiers are special beings. The things they do are not for lilly-livered people. The stuff they signed up for are deep and deadly. The danger they are exposed to just to keep us safe are difficult sometimes to explain. As a mother, I don’t even know how their mothers cope. For instance, how’s a mother […]
Continue ReadingYou are 33 and not doing badly. You are comfortable and beautiful but your love of easy money has blurred your childhood vision of a cozy happy home with children and a husband who loves you to bits. Your once vivid dream of falling in love and marrying early to raise four children, while nurturing […]
Continue ReadingHusbands can and do defect because defection is a two-way street. If wives can defect, so can husbands. If a woman doesn’t get too old for touching and pampering, a man is also entitled to warmth, kisses and cuddles. A bull is always a bull. His charging power may reduce but charge he must. He […]
Continue ReadingYou know our forebears had traditional antidotes to infidelity? Yes, they did. They had things they said, did and believed would protect the marriage institution, and those things worked. It does not matter what you think of their antidotes. The fact is, today, whatever we are doing is neither working for marriages nor stopping infidelity […]
Continue ReadingIt is not every marriage that is founded on love, and not every married person who married for love. Don’t tell me you don’t know a few people who took their vows based on what they could see, rather than what they felt. They stood, all dressed up in front of their pastor, bishop or […]
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