Whoever has been in a relationship that didn’t work out before will know how it hurts. So, we will only take the relationship aspect of an interview that this beautiful girl, Biodun Okeowo granted a newspaper, sometimes ago and thanks to New Telegraph. Hear Biodun Okeowo below:
What movie earned you fame?
Tolani Osinrin is the name of the movie
It’s believed that for actresses to attain limelight she must date one marketer or the other. How will you honestly react to this?
I’m very sorry I wouldn’t want to go into marketers’ issue (laughs). Well, it’s a normal thing for a man to see a lady and admire her and want to date her and it’s also a normal thing for a woman to either accept or not.
Only a devilish man will take it personal or take it as an offence for turning him down. So it’s a choice thing. It’s not like anybody is holding anyone to ransom. So I don’t know how true that notion is.
Have you dated a marketer previously?
I’ve never dated any marketer before, quote me anywhere.
After two kids you still look very beautiful. What’s your secret?
I don’t do anything really. As an actress I’m even too big sincerely. I used to be trimmer than this. Let’s just say I’m more comfortable now. I’m not rich but I’m comfortable.
You were slim, how did you find so much fat?
Then I used to think a lot. I’m a single mother. I used to think about how to pay school fees, how to pay rent, but with God on my side, I’m more comfortable now.
Who is picking the bills now?
Nobody is picking the bills but jobs are coming in more now than before. And with all that is happening in the world now, you don’t need to think yourself to death. I just had to take life has it comes.
In your previous interview, you said you’d really love to remarry. What are your plans for marriage or is there still a chance with the father of your children?
The father of my kids has remarried and, for me, that’s a forgone issue. Though he came back, he did at a time I had already made up my mind.
Was it before he got remarried?
Yes, so I wouldn’t know if I’m supposed to be the first wife or the second one.
Is there no one in your life now?
There’s someone in my life
Is your lucky man also in the limelight?
Yes
Is he also an actor?
I wouldn’t want to answer that question (chuckles).
When are you altar-bound?
Well, do you know that even this life that we are living is borrowed? And man proposes, God disposes. So right now, all I say to my God is ‘God let your will be done in my life.
Let it happen at the right time, at your own chosen time.’ I rushed into the first one when I was so naïve, so right now I’m taking my time because there is nothing to rush into anymore. I’ve gotten the fruit of marriage, which is the kids. So I’m not rushing. I’m taking my time.
For how long will you be taking your time?
But do you know that I will not go on my kneels to propose to a man? I’m sure you know that.
Oh, he hasn’t proposed?
He has not.
For someone who has had a grim tale of love,what else about love excites you?
Well, there is this Yoruba adage that says: “Ti esin ba d’ani, a n tun gun ni.” (If a horse throws you off, you get up and get back on it). And another one says if an elder falls to the ground, he looks back.
When he looks back, he’d seen why he fell, he faces his front and forge ahead. The fact that you fall down doesn’t mean you should remain there. I’m someone that believes in love.
It’s true that sometime you might fall in love with the wrong person. You know, we ladies when we are in love, we love blindly.
You don’t even want to know if the other person loves you or not, but now I’m more mature. I can tell if a guy loves me or not. If he doesn’t love me, I go. So I think I’m more mature now. I now understand what love is, so it makes me happy that somebody loves me.
What is the greatest thing you’ve done for love?
I almost sacrificed my happiness, my education, everything for love, but thank God I got them back.
So who was that one person who supported your acting dream?
The person is the father of my kids. Then I appreciated it, but now I wouldn’t know if he supported me for the love he had for me or because he wanted to push me out.
Now I wouldn’t know anymore. Because if I sit back and think about it, immediately I said it that I wanted to act, he was like, really? Okay, okay go ahead. So now I look at it that maybe it was an avenue to push me away, but he was one person that supported me.
When you started acting, did you get carried away and started getting involved with men?
No. Even then I usually looked forward to going home. When we are rehearsing and it’s taking too long I would go to my boss and tell him I want to go home, that I’m missing my husband, but to my surprise, he would say: ‘Your husband, he just called saying that if we are busy I shouldn’t allow you go.’ And I would be sad because my mind would be at home.
Then, I didn’t know he had his reason, but now when I sit back and think about it, I realise that it was an avenue for him to push me away because probably I was choking him. Now I know better because the things he did afterwards…. don’t let me go into details.
Does this lend credence to the claim that it’s almost impossible for actresses to successfully keep their homes?
Let me just quickly chip in something – I was not legally married. I have never been married. Well, I would say it’s because we are in the limelight. It happens everywhere. Marriages these days don’t work because the kind of patience our parents had, we don’t have it. But because we are in the limelight, everything about us is in full public glare, so people tend to say all sorts. But marriages break everywhere.
Do you still bear some grudges against him?
No. I would say he didn’t want to get tied down as at then. In fairness to my mom and dad, they tried a lot. I’ve never seen where a family would be like ‘we don’t want money from you just come and do the right thing.’
I’m the only girl in the family, so that it won’t be a bad precedence, but when the guy wasn’t budging, it became glaring that the woman wasn’t needed in that family. So, even if I was not an actress, the same way he went about dumping me, I would say, he would still dump me.
I’ve never said it before, but you know, I just told myself that ‘Biodun, you have to say it or else people will tag me as one of those that probably stardom got into and she walked out of her marriage.’ Even if I was not an actress, he would still go about it the same way he went about it.
Do you think that like some men, the father of your kids thought he could always come back because you got kids together?
Yes, but in my case, he came back, but I never went back because I was once beaten and twice shy. But maybe because he was married at the time, he came back because I actually waited. I would have married someone else, but I had that belief that he was going to come back.
How long did you wait?
I would tell you that I started granting interviews and saying that I’m not married maybe like three years ago. So I waited for like three years.
So when he got married, even before he got married, I heard that he wanted to get married to someone and when I heard that he paid her dowry, I wept. And in all fairness I would say it, let him read it: ‘Eni to fe ko daa to mi’ (the person he married is not as pretty as I am). Maybe it was never meant to be.
So how did you find the strength to love again?
I can’t kill myself. Will I say because someone has hurt me I will now recoil? Do you except me to trade my happiness for someone who never appreciated me. Do you know why am saying all this? I’ve never granted an interview that I will come out and say these things, but you know he’s now married, so why am I concealing things.
Source: New Telegraph