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The only time to start living your best life is NOW. Not later or when you feel you will be ready. As you work hard, normalise savouring the fruits of your labour and helping others when they need it most. My deceased relation denied himself a lot to “gather enough.’’ But at the end of […]
Continue ReadingI lost a loved one recently and once again, the lessons from the experience came flooding. The first lesson is a reminder to ALWAYS do what needs to be done immediately it comes to mind because there’s no guarantee the opportunity will come again. This implies to every aspect of our lives. Whenever an issue […]
Continue ReadingAnother lady also reached out to me and her message reads, “Let me just say that I am currently swimming in a pool of regret. Our mother died when I was less than 10 years old and that’s when I stepped into her shoes in the lives of my four younger siblings; three males and […]
Continue ReadingIn sharing her experiences with me, the lady told of how their parents died young and she began early in life to play the mother hen to her younger brothers. Said she put herself through a lot to train them in school. She added, “Although, I am blessed with material success, one is not lucky […]
Continue ReadingIt’s difficult not to take in the different Naija characters that one often comes across on blog sites, especially if you are like those of us (silent readers) who also bother with the comment section. There’s the one that seems to go there just to correct people’s grammar. This character hardly contributes to the discourse o but […]
Continue ReadingWhen a lady wrote me some time back, she narrated her experiences at the hands of an in-law thus, “I joined this family a little over 16 years ago and nothing seems to be out of place in her character. Then, I was freshly out of an abusive marriage with a toddler in tow but […]
Continue ReadingThanks to WhatsApp “share-share” of all sorts of video clips, I recently got to know about a rather overfed (he looks Pregnant!) fellow that is making the waves in the arena of Nigeria’s ‘miracle seekers.’ Much as I find a lot about him (especially his religious slangs) a comic relief, his growing materialism is actually […]
Continue ReadingA worrisome update of a friend on the social media made me reach out to her via inbox. It turned out that she was battling potentially terminal health challenges. In the update, she made a vague reference to her battles and then asked friends to keep her in their prayers. I also reached out to […]
Continue ReadingBecome a GOOD citizen of the world. Wherever you find yourself, give the best of yourself there. Treat your host community well and always be humane to people. Keep in mind that “where you come from” may not always have your back as “where you are.” Don’t be the reason others are paying for a […]
Continue ReadingDo not miss an opportunity to plant a seed of goodness. You may have initiated a chain of ‘paying it forward’ without realising it. Be in relentless pursuit of knowledge. Knowledge (if rightly applied) is the saving grace of mankind. Cultivate knowledge so that you don’t unknowingly help to propagate falsehood and ignorance that ruin […]
Continue ReadingIt is my conviction that this is the year of HEALING for humanity in general. The sole intention of every lover of humanity in these times should be ‘’helping to heal the world.’’ Such efforts are what each of us can make in our individual capacities and little corners of the world. It’s often the […]
Continue ReadingSome women were recently caught with babies said to be ‘’a few days old.’’ It was further discovered that they specialised in selling newborns. I want to address couples who may be moved to “find a child anyhow.” One thing I have learnt about life is that all we do are accompanied by consequences. Igbo […]
Continue ReadingWhen a relationship that means something to you is troubled, what you do is enable honest reflections. In the absence of genuine reflections, facades are stowed. In troubled moments, there are dispositions not to subject a relationship to. Playing mind games. People in troubled relationships do this a lot, to make the other feel jolted […]
Continue ReadingThe quote reads, ‘’A perfectly crafted body will certainly get my attention but I will get bored with it. I always do. I need you to outsmart me. Make me feel like I could learn from you, grow with you. Do that and you can have me forever.” The “I need you to outsmart me” […]
Continue ReadingThis is my address to the woman coming from an experience of brokenness. Dearest sister, The first thing that I want to make you understand is that it is not everyone’s success story that will be will be told through marriage or even biological children. Yet, everyone’s success story is waiting to be told just […]
Continue ReadingI have had reasons to re-think ‘happiness’ as most of us understand it. A French philosopher (Charles de Montesquieu) once said, “If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are.’’ […]
Continue ReadingMy response to her was ‘men are not always in the mood’ for lack of a better answer. Sometimes, the ‘right words’ fail even a wordsmith. Otherwise, her concern is one that numerous ladies have continually expressed. “How does a man switch off (and then, on) on a spouse effortlessly?,” she asked me. We all […]
Continue ReadingWhy am I making YOU the focus, here? Because you are the one disturbed enough to seek help! Therefore, it’s important to point you to strategies within your control. The heart of another person is one of the things you can’t control in life. Back to the discourse. With people who mostly live in their […]
Continue ReadingThe points I picked from a man’s message to me (recently), were… They have been married for about 12 years with children. The wife seems to mind his closeness to the mum. His wife is a loner and doesn’t like associating with others. Getting her to attend occasions with him is often declined. He attends […]
Continue ReadingWhen a friend asked me to handle the keynote address for their women’s retreat, I accepted on one condition that I would be allowed to speak from the heart. The theme of that particular retreat was ‘securing your home.’ Not a few women in that gathering expressed bewilderment when I mentioned showing grace to fellow […]
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